We are in agreement on softness and strength, yin and yang.
I think that yin is emphasized first due to our natural inclinations. The Fight or Flight response generally means that we resist aggression with a yang response. The classics state “drop one side” (not both sides) in order to avoid “double pressure” (as Brennan translates the concept):
From THE TAIJI BOXING TREATISE OF WANG ZONGYUE OF SHANXI
https://brennantranslation.wordpress.co ... -classics/
Of course, the importance of practice and experience is also mentioned.Standing like a scale, move like a wheel. If you drop one side, you can move, but if you have equal pressure on both sides, you will be stuck. We often see one who has practiced hard for many years yet is unable to perform any neutralizations and is generally under the opponent’s control, and the issue here is that this error of double pressure has not yet been understood.
If you want to avoid this error, you must understand passive and active. In sticking there is yielding and in yielding there is sticking. The active does not depart from the passive and the passive does not depart from the active, for the passive and active exchange roles. Once you have this understanding, you will be identifying energies. Once you are identifying energies, then the more you practice, the more efficient your skill will be, and by absorbing through experience and by constantly contemplating, gradually you will reach the point that you can do whatever you want.
To my understanding, Taiji means having both yin and yang present at the same time. This can be interpreted as being between the Taijiquan practitioner and the opponent (e.g., “He is hard while I am soft...”), but it can also be applied to the individual alone (e.g., “The active does not depart from the passive and the passive does not depart from the active, for the passive and active exchange roles.”).
Some schools emphasize the relationship between the practitioner and the opponent (as ChiDragon appears to), while others focus on the yin and yang relationship in ourselves. To me, both have value although, at my current stage of practice, I work more on the latter.
DP